God asked me this question as I was preparing to write this post.
Jenn what if you let the one who loved you enough to die for you be the one who validates you?
Who tells you who you are.
Who tells you of your worth.
The definition of validation is : demonstrate or prove the value of.
Who or what am I asking to prove the value of me?
I remember in high school thinking so badly I would feel valued if I just went on a date, or had a boyfriend.
I had one in my head, He just didn’t know we were together. I was convinced He secretly loved me and was too shy to show it. He didn’t know we had a love song either, that happened to be playing while we were in the church van together. Granted He was four rows back from me, but in my mind it we OUR song.
I though that a boy would validate and prove the value of me.
At 33 I am still boyfriendless, but I have to say God has shown me so much about how this does not de-value me.
The God of the universe valued me so much He died for me.
Now I don’t so much look for that boyfriend to validate me, and someday if I have a future husband out there I am sure He will be glad not too have that pressure.
But I can quickly slip into performance validation.
Almost like the old notes that used to get passed way back in the day in school (like old school pen and paper style).
Do you like me? Check yes or no?
Do you want to be my BFF? Yes or no?
Is my ministry work worthy? Am I enough ? Is my writing of worth? My speaking? Is God using me enough and do I look good enough is this trendy outfit?
I love that I can go to Jesus who has already validated my value to Him– I was worth Him dying for. That’s how much He wanted relationship with me, and with you.
In keeping with our Proverbs study, I love the simple truth in Proverbs 22:19 that your trust may be in the Lord.
I want to trust enough who God is and who He says I am — trusting enough in that, so that I don’t have to walk up to anyone or anything else and say Do you like me? Check yes or no.
I can walk around with my needs of value and love already answers and fulfilled so everything out of that is an overflow.
Proverbs 22:4 The reward for humility and fear of the Lord is riches and honor (value) and life.
I simply have to humbly worship the Lord for Who He is and He will show me my value and life.